Comments on: Sometimes other people’s children annoy me

By: Emma t

Emma t — Mon, 24 Jun 2019 17:54:33 +0000

Ooh i would have been fuming in any of those situations and i totally agree. I’m not a huge dan of kids anyway, unless i know them well and know they will behave appropriately and are generally school age. But so many parents today seem to be just like this. So many occasions have i had to tell kids off because there’s no parent in sight to tell them that they shouldn’t be doing something or hurting someone. I would have had to have said something to the parent in both of these situations and probably to the children in the first. I’d be appalled if N acted up like that and I’d certainly have not allowed it in the first place.

I’m sure people will say ‘oh you don’t know the circumdtances’ or they might have had behavioural or had another issue that means they don’t get how to behave in certain situations but then the parent should make that clear, apologise and at least attempt to stop them. Or book a window seat for them. I don’t see why kids should be allowed to get away with bad behaviour because they ‘need to find their own way’. In their home fine but not where it interferes with other people. That type of parenting isn’t going to create adults who can function suitably in different situations.

By: Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)

Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) — Mon, 24 Jun 2019 07:00:48 +0000

I completely agree with you on this. I think there is a big difference between accepting that children can be noisy and whilst accepting that in a public space is one thing, you shouldn’t have to accept them invading your space and climbing on you while you’re sitting on the train and the passive-aggressive comments in the cafe were just rude. I think children should be able to be free to go out in cafes and restaurants and not be expected to sit in silence, but equally it is the parents’ (or adult in charge) responsibility to set appropriate boundaries.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Mon, 24 Jun 2019 06:22:40 +0000

I agree 100%. My father always told us that he raised his kids for other people. Meaning as a parent you love your child unconditionally (even if you don’t always LIKE them). But you want other people to accept and like your children. You want to teach them boundaries and how to respect other people and their space. Always thing if this is something you would be happy with if it wasn’t your child, if the answer is no then they are probably behaving inappropriate.
Parents are so scared to upset their children that they forget to actually parent them and as a result we are living in a society with spoilt, poorly behaved children who have no respect for adults or each other.

Both your examples are horrible, I don’t think I would have been able to sit there be polite. The parents and the kid would have known my feelings

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 05 Mar 2017 13:20:45 +0000

I agree completely and, at the same time, am probably guilty of this. Sorry one and all! I think parents can be naive to think of their own children as cute, when actually they’re annoying. It’s something parents learn to understand as kids get older and discipline more important I think (I hope!) But I do think that some parents are frightened of discipline and don’t know how to enforce it within modern boundaries. Maybe we were smacked ourselves, but we don’t want to do that to our own kids. Or maybe parents are afraid of being judged for being harsh in our modern society where children’s protection is revered. Or maybe some children were always indulged and spoilt but it’s more common now because families tend to have fewer children… all food for thought.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Sat, 04 Mar 2017 19:40:31 +0000

Totally agree my daughter has ASD and sensory issues. This does and can cause a look or two accompanied by an eyeroll from strangers. But I always have and always will endeavour to show her to respect others space (difficult with ASD) respect their words and such.
She does fund it confusing when others are running amok and she isn’t allowed to.
Her constant talking and inappropriate comments…. now thats a differnt challenge all together.