Friday’s Rant from the Soap Box in MY Living Room – A petty rant about trying to get pregnant and other people’s advice…

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It’s not an unknown fact that we are trying to add a 3rd small human member to our household. It’s also not unknown, at least to us, and people close to us that it doesn’t happen all that easily for us. My body doesn’t do what it is supposed to do. I can get pregnant, but I have had several miscarriages due to a hormone issue that I have had, all of my adult life. It’s not a condition that can be fixed on it’s own. It’s not life threatening, or serious. I simply need a little extra help to stay pregnant. TMI ahead, be warned.

When I ovulate, my body will do what it is supposed to do, but because of a lack of one hormone, even though technically I can get pregnant, I don’t always stay pregnant. I take a synthetic version of this hormone, to help. It doesn’t work all the time, and it’s not a sure fire guarantee that I will get pregnant or stay pregnant, but it’s what I have to do.

I AM SICK OF people telling me to “try this herb” or “try this oil” or “stop eating x” or “try eating y” or “drink this”, or “this person rubbed this oil on her head three times a day and drank camel milk” (ok, that’s just a bit of make believe but you get my drift!) to try and help me.

NONE of it will work. I have tried, actually, most things. My body just doesn’t produce the necessary hormone in the right amount and it needs that little bit of medical help to do the job. It’s not a major issue compared to the fertility problems many women suffer from, but it annoys the pants off of me, when I know, my doctor knows, the specialist I see every year knows that really, nothing but a course of hormones will help.

I don’t need to hear about how your cousin saw a massage therapist who rubbed her feet three times and bingo, she was pregnant. I also don’t want to be told your chiropractor says that by clicking my back, she can align my ovaries and voila, pregnant I will be… NONE of it will help.

Oh, and please don’t tell me to “just relax and it will happen”. I know that won’t work. Relaxing doesn’t make hormones magically appear out of the blue…

So, thank you to anyone who wants to tell me how my body should be working, and please don’t suggest anything, just nod, give me a hug and either pray or hope for us that we are able to give our children the little brother or sister they want so much…

That was my late to the party Friday Rant, apologies if I sound angry and bitter. I am slightly. If we don’t have a 3rd baby, I will of course accept that in time, but right now, I cannot deal with silly if well meaning suggestions.


Posted in Friday's Rants from The Soap Box and tagged alternative medicine, Pregnancy, Trying to conceive.


  1. Have you tried dancing naked under a full moon while waving a spatula and singing “yellow submarine?” It won’t do jack but it’ll give the police a story.

    Totally kidding, of course. It must be immensely frustrating. Try to remember people are trying to help (in a clumsy way). Good luck. X

  2. I can imagine how annoying this must be. Everyone always seems to have an opinion as soon as it comes to pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. Have a hug and no advice at all from me πŸ™‚

  3. I’ve been thinking how to reply as I know I’m guilty of some of the above after watching one of my best friends go through ivf. It’s kind of skewed what I say though instead of herbs and acupuncture I ask about hormone level testing…..

    Thanks for linking to #effitfriday and good luck xx

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