Sometimes a hug from mum is all you need… tweens, teens and beyond!

Moving into the world of being a tweenager and teenager is fun but also can be challenging. Emotions, physical changes, changing relationships. They come with ups and downs. Sometimes the downs can feel a lot more than the ups.

Sometimes you have a bad day at school and you just want to cry, but you have to hold it all in, until you get home. Boys can be mean and you feel like your teacher doesn’t get what’s upsetting you. You want to yell at someone but you know that probably won’t help, even if it might make you feel slightly better.

Sometimes, all you need is to go and ask someone for a hug, and to let it all out, in a jumble of words and tears, and for them to let you cry, and get it all off your chest, and to tell you it’s ok to feel the way you do, and for them to be sympathetic and agree that boys can be ridiculously annoying. Sometimes you just need someone to listen and tell you that they remember being your age and how tough it could be!

Sometimes you just need to be told that it will all be ok, and that the emotions and feelings you have are totally normal and you can let them out and no one will tell you, you are being silly.

Sometimes that’s just what you need your mum for… 

She needs me just as much now, as she enters this stage, as she did when she was a toddler, needing a hug and comfort, as big as she is! 
(The incident with the boys wasn’t serious. They were being annoying but nothing alarming or beyond the normal behaviour of typical tweenage boys, she just needed to vent and have some tlc and be told it was ok to feel the way she did and for her mum to give her some tips on how to deal with them)

Posted in Family Life and Parenting and tagged growing up, parenting teenagers, teenagers, tweenagers.


  1. Oh this is so so true – the having to hold all the emotions together whilst at school is so hard on a teen. Sometimes all you really need is a hug from mum – so so lovely and heartfelt – it made me a little emotional. Off to hug my three!! #TweensTeensBeyond

  2. Lucky girl to have a mama like you who understands that hugs are often the best medicine. I can relate to what you said about your daughter having to hold everything in at school. We have had similar issues and by the time she comes home, she is all over the place. So we have some screaming and yelling and then cuddles and tears. Then tea and a biscuit. And even though I hate to see her like that, I am glad that she needs me 🙂

  3. Hugs are hugely important and it’s great that your lovely tween can get loads of them from you! My eldest is 18 and she still comes to me for a cuddle. I hope she always will! Thanks so much for joining us at #TweensTeensBeyond, hope to see you again next week.

  4. You can’t beat a hug from mum, my 18 year old still walks up to me on a daily basis and just grunts “hug” with biceps extended and my daughter is the world’s biggest hugger – they make the world go round. Thanks for linking again. #TweensTeensBeyond

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